First off, this does not define you. This is just a chapter in your life story, and it’s one you will get through. If we’re being honest, yes, chemotherapy will challenge you in ways you never thought possible. This isn’t to scare you but to prepare you. You’ve probably already started hearing the “you’ve got this!” encouragement—and yes, you absolutely do. But let’s keep it real: there will be moments when you feel like you’re hitting rock bottom, only to find your way back on top, and then do it all over again. It’s a tough cycle, but it does eventually come to an end. And here’s the good news—there are tools and resources that can make this journey smoother and more manageable. We’ve put together a detailed packed step-by-step guide to help you navigate chemo with confidence.
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ASK ALL THE QUESTIONS
Understanding your treatment plan and what to expect from each session will help so much in your success. Bring your Chemo Queens Journal and conversation prompts with you to your healthcare appointments, and ask all the questions. Remember, knowledge is power, and you’re strong as hell when you’re equipped with resources. Keep an open dialogue with your team.
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Blythe’s Advice: Advocate for yourself. Ask for treatment options, even the ones they don’t offer. I ended up being allergic to the standard Taxol so then, and only then did they offer Abraxane. Not to say one is better than the other but full disclosure – they call it the “Rolls Royce of chemotherapy”?!? Advocate. For. Yourself. And of course, ask about cold cap services and any other resource teams they may work with ( acupuncture, movement/yoga classes, nutritionists, therapy etc…)
Kesley’s Advice: I second Blythe! Remember, it’s your body and you know it more than your doctor, more than the numbers they see in their database. Advocate for yourself and speak up! This is your chance to defend yourself if anything seems off.
STAY HYDRATED
Drink water daily, before and after treatment, to stay hydrated. Both of us tried to drink at least a gallon a day. Bring a big water bottle everywhere you go, including during your chemo session. This helps process the medicine and keeps side effects at bay. Be sure to ask your oncology team about extra hydration options following your infusion days.
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Blythe’s Advice: Tell your Oncologist that you would like to have additional Hydration sessions following your treatments. You’ll have to go back for an infusion but it’s going to make you bounce back so much smoother. Kesley didn’t have this option and felt like she was hit with the worst hangover. This is an option that not many know is available to them. Again, speak up and let them know what is going to make YOU comfortable.
BRING YOUR CHEMO BAG
When you go to your treatment sessions, come equipped with everything you need to stay busy, comfortable, and entertained. You’ll want to include a water bottle, headphones for music, podcasts, meditations, or watch a show. Word games/mind puzzles are great too. Most facilities offer warm blankets, but there’s something special about bringing a cozy one from home. Personal items like photos, crystals, or charms can be comforting. And don’t forget your Cryo gloves to help with potential neuropathy. We’ve curated a list of products we loved on our Amazon page. On there you will find every phase of this journey. We have products that are great for treatment days, for radiation, surgery, and everything in between.
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Kesley’s Advice: The first treatment, you’re going to feel compelled to bring everything under the sun with you. I felt like I was moving in! You never know what you might need. Over time, my bag became lighter to the point where I only showed up with my water bottle, airpods, a crystal, and my laptop. Bring all the things that will bring you comfort but you may soon realize the essentials are really all you need.
Blythe’s Advice: All of the above, plus I was gifted crossword puzzles which I felt kept my mind activated. Coloring books as well, yes I am a grown adult but again – brain power Lol. “Chemo fog” is real so I think this helped the more I did these kinds of activities during infusions.
TAKE YOUR MEDS!!!
To manage side effects, use your prescribed medications for nausea and pain relief, and consider natural remedies like fresh juiced ginger and tea. Even if you don’t feel nauseous, take your anti-nausea meds anyway. Trust us, even if you think you’re good bathroom-wise, take the Senokot, Colace, or whatever your team suggests for constipation. You’re going to want it. Also, be sure to keep track of your meds and symptoms. There’s a section in the back of The Chemo Queens Journal specifically for this to help you stay organized.
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Kesley’s Advice: Most likely anyone I’ve mentioned this to (specifically the senokot/colace ie constipation meds) ignored me on this one and you probably will too. Take the pills!! You will probably make the mistake once and then realize I was right. Don’t sleep on these!! Thank me later!
Blythe’s Advice: Yep. Take. The. Meds. It’s all about preventative steps, staying ahead of possible side effects. It helped to set alarms.
WHAT TO EAT
There’s no golden rule on what to eat—it’s all about what your body needs. Whether you’re eating a balanced diet, going vegan, doing intermittent fasting, Paleo, or whole foods, listen to your body. Steer clear of the cold cut deli meats, sugary stuff, and booze, but if you want cake, eat the damn cake! We both ate a balanced diet rich in fruits, veggies, and protein to maintain our strength. On days when food wasn’t appealing, nutrient-dense bone broth and smoothies were lifesavers. The point is to consume something that fuels you and keeps your energy up. Talk to your physician for diet suggestions.
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Blythe’s Advice: I swear the only thing I could eat was pad Thai and popsicles. The Kate Hill protein shakes were clutch as well. But do what you can here and keep the dialogue open with your oncology team – again they may have a team of nutritionists who can help guide you.
Kesley’s Advice: If you go through all the blogs and forums, many will say the same thing – try not to eat your favorite things. I don’t know if it’s ptsd or what but there are certain foods that are quite frankly ruined for me. Not to be alarmed, it’s not forever, but food may begin to taste weird overtime. Fuel your body with as much nutrients that’s going to give you energy and make you feel good. Smoothies and Kettle Fire Bone Broth were life savers for me during the last couple of months.
GET PLENTY OF REST
Rest as much as you can and listen to your body. Give yourself time to fully recover by taking naps and getting a full night’s sleep. Rebuilding your energy is essential for your upcoming treatments. Right now, your main focus should be on you and your healing—everything else can wait.
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Kesley’s Advice: As someone who was always on the go, constantly traveling and bouncing from one thing to the next, I was literally forced to slow down and finally get some sleep! It was tough feeling so confined, especially with COVID going on at the same time. A double lockdown. But I soon realized that rest was exactly what I needed to show up for myself and get through it. Each treatment became a step closer to reclaiming my life. Now, my life looks so different from what it used to be. Those moments of rest helped me really tune in and connect with my body. That connection is something that still continues to this day.
Blythe’s Advice: There’s no shame in resting. There was a time when I couldn’t sleep and I was prescribed sleep aids and never took them. A peace of mind knowing I had the option? The mind is powerful.
MOVE YOUR BODY
Along with getting plenty of rest, movement is essential! Even something as simple as walking around the block or doing some light stretching can make a big difference. While Kesley found peace in taking walks, Blythe continued to hit the gym and worked with her trainer. It all depends on what your body needs, but what we found is that staying active helped prevent our energy from becoming stagnant. Plus, it boosts your mood and gets those endorphins flowing, helping you feel better, more energized, and more connected to yourself.
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Blythe’s Advice: I didn’t want to lose my stride. My only goal was to show up to the gym every Monday and that’s what I did. The goal wasn’t to get fit or lose weight, it was to just move. Some days I just cried on my trainers shoulder, other days I felt like I could move a f*cking mountain but, we just kept moving. It was just about showing up. Perhaps it was that feeling of normalcy? The chemo cloud will want to keep you crumpled on the couch so do what you can and be sure to listen to your body.
TO TRY COLD CAPPING OR NOT?
Kesley didn’t have the opportunity to cold cap, but Blythe did. If you’re wondering what cold capping is and how it could potentially save your hair during treatment, check out Blythe’s Cold Cap Guide here! If cold capping isn’t an option, hair loss is a possibility—but don’t lose hope! There are miracle stories of people who didn’t lose their hair. And if you do lose your hair, there are options. You can cut it early and use it for extensions, have a wig made from your own hair, experiment with different wigs, or rock the bald look. Kesley ended up completely losing her hair but found liberation in embracing the change by shaving her head early on, with Blythe by her side. It felt like she was gearing up for battle! The best part? Her hair started growing back just two weeks after her last chemo treatment!
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Blythe’s Advice: I am a huge advocate for cold capping, I will tell everybody to at least TRY it. There are types of treatments that don’t allow it but if it is available to you – go for it. One of the products I am looking forward to the most from our company is our own cold cap design, which is currently under development.
Kesley’s Advice: I didn’t have the chance to try cold capping, but oh, how I wish I could’ve. That time was a whirlwind, and honestly, to say I was obsessed with my hair would be an understatement. Letting it go was heartbreaking, but after it started falling out and forming these awful, painful dreadlocks, it no longer felt like my hair—it just had to go. It was the ultimate betrayal. After everything my hair and I had been through together, I couldn’t believe how quickly it gave up on me. It felt like a breakup, but one that turned out to be strangely freeing. I still miss my old hair sometimes, and when I look back at pictures, there’s a part of me that’s nostalgic. But as my new curls grow in, I’m learning to love and respect my hair in a whole new way. These fresh, damage-free curls that dance across my face? They’re my little reminder of resiliency. Back when my own reflection felt unfamiliar, I kept reminding myself, “This is temporary.” It became my mantra, carrying me through every chapter of that wild journey.
FERTILITY OPTIONS
Chemotherapy can impact fertility, but there are options for preservation. Talk to your Oncologist about seeing a fertility specialist. Options may include egg/sperm freezing or ovarian protection. Financial assistance programs might also be available, so be sure to ask about resources. We have a Fertility Guide in our conversation prompts bundle with some tips and things to consider when it comes to what could be available.
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Kesley’s Advice: I would have never known that fertility preservation would be an option had the nurse not asked about me having children. The minute I said, I wanted to be a mother and hadn’t been one yet, she immediately connected me to a fertility specialist. My doctor had shared with me all of my options even letting me know that my insurance covered the entire cost and first year of preservation. When the time comes, I now know I have options.
CREATE A SUPPORTIVE ENVIORNMENT
Turn your home into your sanctuary—a place that’s not just relaxing and supportive, but also filled with comfort. Surround yourself with people and things that lift you up and bring you joy. It’s crucial to protect your space and energy, so don’t hesitate to delete, cancel, remove, or expel anyone or anything that drags you down. This is your show, and it’s all about your healing journey. Don’t let anyone’s insecurities or negativity interfere with your process. Right now, it’s all about YOU —focus on what YOU need to thrive.
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Blythe’s Advice: If you are currently in a toxic relationship or surrounded by people who you feel don’t really support you already, gracefully let them go now. Or ghost them. Whatever your thing is – your life depends on it.
Kesley’s Advice: Lean on your people. Ask for help and try your best to not be prideful. It takes a village and the village will rally. Don’t be surprised who you hear from, who you don’t, and who will make it about them.
FOCUS ON SELF-LOVE
Now more than ever, it’s essential to be kind to yourself. Acknowledge the changes your body is going through and find ways to appreciate and celebrate your incredible strength. Our bodies are truly magical, and you’re stronger than you may realize. Take time to reward yourself for everything you’re enduring—whether that’s treating yourself to a massage, indulging in a gentle facial, soaking in the calming vibrations of a sound bath, practicing meditation, or diving into manifestation work like TBM. Whatever brings you comfort and joy, make it a priority. You deserve it.
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Blythe’s Advice: Remember who the f*ck you are. At some point along the way you will look in the mirror and start to see physical changes. Just remember this is the body carrying you through it, embrace this version of you. I think it’s important to hold a vision of who you want to be on the other side of this because you will never be the same after this. You will soon find out that the glow-up post chemo is very very real.
Kesley’s Advice: This is temporary. The pain, the sadness, the guilt, the confusion, the symptoms, the side effects, everything about this process is temporary. Will it be easy Hell no! But taking it day by day, minute by minute know that there’s hope on the other side of this. MANY have come before you and have found beauty after. You are not alone in this.
PREPARE MENTALLY
A cancer diagnosis can feel like an out-of-body experience, leaving you feeling disconnected from yourself. Which is why it’s SO important to practice mindfulness and meditation as part of your mental preparation for treatment. Taking time to reconnect with yourself through meditation can be incredibly grounding and supportive of your healing journey. We found that combining meditation and affirmations with moments of pure joy—like having mini dance parties in the car, scream-singing with the windows down—really helped us get in the right headspace before treatments. And when you need a pick-me-up, our Spotify Playlist is here to help manage stress and lift your spirits, both before and after chemo!
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Kesley’s Advice: Blythe and I are big believers in the power of mindset and thought—think The Secret, Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, Joe Dispenza, Gabby Bernstein—you name it, we’re probably into it. We’ve found that finding peace within yourself, in any way that resonates with you, can really help calm your mind and give you a sense of hope. During my treatments, I leaned into meditation and even did hypnosis meditations with my spiritual coach, Celeste Palmer. Every morning, I’d listen to affirmations—sometimes I’d even record my own. There’s something about hearing your own voice telling you affirmations that feels deeply healing and helped me stay centered through it all.
DOCUMENT YOUR JOURNEY
Writing about your experiences throughout your journey can be a powerful tool for processing your emotions and making sense of this chapter in your life. Whether it’s journaling daily thoughts or expressing fears and frustrations, putting pen to paper can help you reflect and heal. Documenting your journey also creates a record of your strength and resilience. Plus, your experiences could one day inspire and support others who might be facing similar challenges. Remember, there’s no right or wrong way to do this—just let your thoughts flow. Grab a copy of our journal. It’ll be a great tool to use during your treatments.
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Blythe’s Advice: To be honest, I wasn’t sure I was going to share my journey publicly. As someone who works on-screen, my first impulse was to hide away until it was all over but I knew this journey wasnt ultimately going to be about me but through me. We’ve already helped multiple people save their hair during chemotherapy and that was just by word of mouth from people who had never even heard of cold capping! So by sharing your story, who shed light for others. But also, hiding is perfectly okay too.
Kesley’s Advice: I still do this to this day, but I did daily Pages, something I adopted from The Artist’s Way. First thing when you wake up, before you talk to anyone, or troll your socials, or check your texts, emails, whatever, pick up your journal and write. It’s 3 pages of whatever you want and that’s it. No more, no less, just 3 pages of a brain dump. Don’t reread your words or try to change the narrative, just write and go about your day. It’s helped so much in clearing my mind before I start my mornings and was a huge help to get the jitters out before treatment.
ASK FOR HELP
Don’t hesitate to ask for help with daily tasks—running errands, picking up groceries, taking you to treatment, doing laundry, or tidying up the house. Lean on your people for support! If you need more resources to navigate chemo, let them do the searching for you. The last thing you need to do is hit up Google Doc for advice! Do not look up life expectancy or any of that. It does. Not. Serve you. What someone else goes through during their treatment is NOT your story. Period. Your body will react completely differently.
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Kesley’s Advice: I had been diagnosed with Triple Negative Breast Cancer. If you were to google it, the results are scary and ridiculously overwhelming. Instead of falling down the rabbit hole, had one of my besties, Aliisa do the research for me. I needed someone to weed through the pharma mess online and find the gems who can give me guidance on what to do next. It was a huge help!
CONSIDER ADDING HEALING MODALITIES
Alongside your medical treatments, consider integrating complementary healing modalities to help manage pain, nausea, and other side effects. Acupuncture can be particularly effective—Kesley visited a practitioner weekly, and it was a game-changer in her healing process. Reiki, which works to balance your body’s energy and promote deep relaxation, can also provide comfort during this time also. Another option is craniosacral therapy, which gently encourages the body’s natural healing processes and can be incredibly soothing. These therapies can be powerful allies in your journey, helping to support both your physical and emotional well-being.
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Kesley’s Advice: Acupuncture was a life saver especially towards the end of my cycles. I also took flower essences suggested by my Acupuncturist which helped with anxiety and overall calmness. One I used was Safe and Sound by Alexis Smart. Her products are so beautiful. She has an array of tinctures but Safe and Sound was so soothing. I also dabbled in THC and CBD drops which overall ended up making me feel super stoned, sleepy, and not fully present on top of the chemo, which I hated so I ended up ditching them. But I know several people who swear by them and their healing properties. It’s worth a try! Also a good sound bath can do wonders!!
ABOVE ALL ELSE FIND JOY
Not to sound too “Live, Laugh, Love,” but finding joy in the little things can really help take the edge off. We all know laughter is the best medicine! So whether it’s funny memes, that friend who always makes you giggle, or a movie you’ve seen a hundred times but never gets old, these small moments matter. It doesn’t have to be big or planned; it just needs to make you feel GOOD, even if just for a millisecond to forget it all. It’s these moments that can remind you, you’re still you—not defined by a diagnosis.
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Kesley’s Advice: I suggest trying to make this experience your own and add a little spice. If you want to wear a new wig every treatment, DO IT! As someone who used to wig out with my friends for fun, wearing a hot wig didn’t really do it for me. BUT I wore a new boob shirt every week and even created my own for my last treatment! A boob shirt with tassels and it was glorious!!! I also shared my journey weekly on Instagram. I had previously shared my trip around the world before the pandemic, so it seemed fitting to also share this journey. I found it therapeutic in a way, my own little outlet to look forward to, to share my thoughts and attempt to keep it real with my friends and family in one place.
USE GENTLE SKINCARE PRODUCTS
Avoid harsh chemicals and opt for gentle, non-irritating skincare products to manage skin sensitivity, soothe, and protect your skin. Chemotherapy can often dry out your skin, so while you’re keeping your body nourished with water and hydrating liquids, a good skincare routine will help keep your skin feeling soft and cared for.
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Blythe’s Advice: Before I started treatment I was in Austin working on a job and I met April (from the Skin Whisperer). I told her about my story and it just so happened she had worked with numerous cancer patients. She introduced me to Osmosis Beauty which is still my favorite skincare brand and they have an entire oncology friendly line. (check our perks page for more details on a discount code)
WEAR COMFORTABLE CLOTHES
Wear loose, soft, and comfy clothes during treatment. Think cozy layers, like your favorite sweatshirt or a soft pair of leggings—anything that makes you feel relaxed and at ease. Opt for fabrics that are gentle on your skin, especially since it might be more sensitive than usual. Easy-to-wear outfits that you can slip on and off without much effort. Comfort is key, so choose pieces that make you feel good, both physically and mentally. Don’t forget to bring along some cozy socks to keep warm during your sessions. We have a few cozy options on our Amazon Storefront in the link below
START THINKING ABOUT THE FUTURE
Who do you want to be after this chapter of your life? What do you want to eliminate or introduce into your life? Maybe there’s something you’ve always wanted to try but never had the guts to do. Is it a new career, packing up and moving to a different city, confessing your love to someone you’ve admired, writing that book, or finally taking that trip to Europe? The world is your oyster, and ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE! This is your moment to redefine your future and go after what truly makes you happy.
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Blythe’s Advice: There is so much beauty on the other side of pain. This was my rebirth. What a gift. It’s all apart of the journey. Who do you want to be on the other side of this?
Kesley’s Advice: For me, I had so many things on the horizon that kept me excited for what came after. I wanted to travel more in Europe—since ringing the bell, I’ve explored Italy, Spain, and even lived in Portugal for a month. I’m already planning to spend all of next summer in Europe! I also wanted to finally dive into my childhood dream of becoming an actress. Growing up in theater, acting and performing had always been a part of me, even though I took the corporate route. Acting became that bright light at the end of my tunnel. Once my pixie hair came through, I got my headshots, signed with a commercial and theatrical agent, and started booking jobs almost immediately. It quickly became clear that when you go after what you truly want, doors and windows start to burst open. So dream big—ANYTHING is possible!
